“Studies of human performance over the years have proven there are only two kinds of people in any given situation: victims and owners.
A victim is someone who sees power as something beyond one’s control. Victims have a habitually lonely and pessimistic way of viewing and describing the world and its people. And although self-victimization can often last a lifetime, it is only a habit. When it’s understood, it can be quickly replaced….
Victims do not get their habit from heredity. They think themselves into it. And what is tragic is that their thinking is based on a fundamental misunderstanding, a misunderstanding that is as fundamental as thinking the world is flat: Victims think all power is outside of them. They think power is in other people and in circumstances….
Owners, on the other hand, take full responsibility for their energy. They continuously tap into the power of the human spirit. They use that spirit as a fire to invent and then reinvent who they are. They don’t look for outside sources to supply their motivation. They’re not waiting for deliverance. They don’t wish they were someone else.” ~ Steve Chandler, Reinventing Yourself: How to Become the Person You’ve Always Wanted to Be