There are realities we cannot avoid. One of them is the importance of self-esteem.
Regardless of what we do or do not admit, we cannot be indifferent to our self-evaluation. However, we can run from this knowledge if it makes us uncomfortable. We can shrug it off, evade it, declare that we are only interested in "practical" matters, and escape into baseball or the evening news or the financial pages or a shopping spree or a sexual adventure or a drink.
Yet self-esteem is a fundamental human need. Its impact requires neither our understanding nor or consent. It works its way within us with or without our knowledge. We are free to seek to grasp the dynamics of self-esteem or to remain unconscious of them, but in the latter case we remain a mystery to ourselves and endure the consequences.
~ Nathaniel Branden, The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem