The sometimes drain of always giving to others

Encouragement needs to be reciprocal.  If you are always encouraging, affirming, supporting, giving pats on the back, but never receiving any of your own, then it's easy to wear down and begin to feel emotionally depleted.

We don't encourage others just so we can be praised for it or told how great we are.  We do it because we care, we love, we empathize, we identify, and because we want something good for that person.

But caregivers, people who give of themselves to others, also need their own good feelings of affirmation, acceptance, and appreciation.

Find ways to be available to good feelings of acceptance, appreciation, and gratitude for who you are, how you give of yourself to others, and for the love you share.  Be with those who offer these affirmations to you.  Be open to the generosity and care of others.  Freely accept smiles, warm embraces, encouraging words, loving touches, and grace from the friends and people who love and appreciate you.

Be willing to treat yourself in ways that fulfill some of your own needs for acknowledgement and care.

© 2011 Timothy Moody

20 Ways to be Encouraged

1.      Pizza and beer

2.     Affectionate kisses

3.     A smile from a passing stranger

4.     Rainy nights

5.     Music

6.     Holding a baby

7.      Watching courage displayed

8.     Displaying courage

9.     Getting a gift

10.  Giving a gift

11.   Seeing a really great movie

12.   Dancing without fear

13.   The greening of the grass and trees

14.   Your pet asleep at your feet

15.   Unexpected praise

16.   Discounts

17.   A project completed

18.  A clean house/apartment

19.   Reading a book you can’t put down

20.  Feeling loved

©2011 Timothy Moody